I have been married for 20 years. Sex is great and our relationship is strong. My wife is supportive of me trying sex with a stranger. Every time I have tried I got very anxious and found it hard to relax and enjoy it.
Hi Anxious Husband,
It sounds as if you have a supportive and open minded wife! You say you have a great sex life with her but feel anxious when you have sex with other people? Maybe the issue is you don’t actually want to have sex with other people? Do you feel you should have sex with others because you have been married 20 years? If it’s variety you are looking for, why not enjoy a threesome with a professional, so your wife is included? Maybe you will relax more. Plenty of people stay married and enjoy their partners without looking elsewhere so it could be that it’s just not for you.
Hope that helps