I need some advice.
I’m a 19 year old uni student whose struggling to find dates. Women don’t seem to be attracted to me or if anything, they’d prefer to friend-zone me. I know you’d probably say that I should be focused on uni but I’m trying to balance out my social life with my academic life and so far it’s great but I would just like to be able to have a girlfriend whether long term or short term just to be able to talk and do fun activities with.
My question to you is how can I make myself seem more attractive to women without having to do some kind of a physical makeover. All I’m doing is just being myself but that doesn’t seem to be working.
The fact the women want to be your friend is a good thing – it’s means you’re a decent man. That’s half the battle. There is no point being attractive if you are lacking in the personality department. But looking good is important too. You say you don’t want a makeover but simple things make a huge difference. You’re only 19, so don’t put too much pressure on yourself, but make sure you always smell nice, trim unruly hairs, eat well and work out, and most importantly – take the pressure off. Stop focusing on whether women find you attractive. Like men, women can smell desperation a mile off. Stop worrying about whether women fancy you, and instead focus on you, what you want and need and desire. The right woman will come to you in time. No one has their love life sorted at 19 – I’m still waiting at 44! So take the pressure off and enjoy your life. You say you have many female friends so maybe ask their advice too?