Having spent hours and hours and hours with men, usually married men, in a room, on a bed, talking intimately and of course, having sex, I hear a lot. I listen a lot. And I learn a lot.
I also do something other escorts see as a big no no; but being a journalist, I can’t help myself and that is to ask a lot of questions. Are you married? Why are you here? What is your sex life like? Do you have affairs?
What you have to understand first of all is that men pay me money for my time; a lot of money. It’s not unusual for a men to hand me an envelope with countless green dollar bills for just one or two hours of company. Most of the men I see are wealthy; so a few thousand is nothing to them. But some of my clients work in shops, bars or make coffees. They don’t earn a lot of money. They will save up for the occasion and see spending time with me as an investment; which of course is terribly flattering but has me thinking. What are these men not getting at home for them to spend their hard earned cash on an escort? If it’s just sex, then why not just masturbate to porn or pick up a stranger in a bar? God knows it’s easy enough to do that.
The answer is of course; that men are not paying purely for penis in vagina. Of course they can get that elsewhere. There are many reasons I have discovered that your partners, boyfriends and husbands visit an escort and here are the three top ones.
HE IS NOT GETTING ENOUGH SEX AT HOME
Yes I know I am not exactly dropping a bombshell here. But I’m not talking about every week. I am talking about every day; or at least every few days. I know, it sounds exhausting. I often look at them incredously when they tell me three times a week isn’t enough. I mean, seriously?
As an escort; I’m supposed to be the kinky one; the one who does nothing all day but live breathe and do sex. But even I couldn’t have sex every day with my husband in my real life.
For me, everything becomes boring if you do it too often; even sex. But not for men. They seriously think about it all the time. So while I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but if your partner is not getting enough sex at home (in his eyes); the chances are he will stray.
HE’S LOOKING FOR INTIMACY
I’m not just someone to have sex with but more importantly, I’m a female to talk to. I get a sense that most clients just want to immerse themselves in the female being; our smell, skin, touch and softness. One client, a lovely doctor in his 30s, paid me to stay overnight. A little indulgence for him.
I asked him what he wanted me to wear; what did he want? Jeans and a T shirt, he replied sweetly. I want the girlfriend experience. He arrived at the hotel suite at 7pm. We had dinner and drinks and were in bed by 10pm. Sex was quick. I fell asleep in his arms at 11pm, wearing the hotel white fluffy dressing gown and woke at 7am. I remember his lips kissing my forehead and him stroking my hair.
I woke at 7am just in time for breakfast in bed. Then we parted ways. There was no kinky sex, no drinking all night, no party. I was a bit anxious on the journey home. Was that a mammoth waste of money for him? After all, he had paid $5,000 for the experience. For what? For some woman falling asleep in his arms at 11pm after just 10 minutes of sex. Hey thanks for last night, beeped the text message just moments later. I had a fantastic time. You’re amazing.
So when a man pays for an escort; often it’s not the sex he needs. It goes a little deeper than that.
ONE WOMAN WILL NEVER BE ENOUGH
For a small percentage of men, one vagina will never be enough. No matter how gorgeous and sexy and beautiful the woman is who owns it.
Some of my clients claim to be happily married, love their wives, have great sex lives, but just need variety. Is that bad? Not in my eyes; that’s just men for you.