Hi Sam, I’ve been in a relationship for 2 months now and everything is going great, batting well above my average, she’s an amazing girl. Thought she was studying law at uni wich she is, but is supplementing her income escorting. 2 questions: 1. How do I deal with this, she’s an amazing girl we get along like best friends and the love I have for her is crazy. So I worry about jealousy and my insecurities with this profession. 2. Secondly I want to stay with her as I love her and she loves me but should we speak to family about this career? I appreciate any advice, very difficult time.

Dear Boyfriend,

Aha – so now you know her secret. My question is, how did you find out? If she told you, that’s great. I am all for honesty. If you stumbled, snooped or suspected – it can’t be easy. The trust may have gone and depending on how strong your relationship is, would be hard to retrieve. Dating a sex worker isn’t for the faint hearted. You need to be OK with her being intimate with other men. You have every right to feel jealous or insecure. Even though a job is just a job, this is a special kind of job that requires your partner giving a lot more than her time. My advice is be honest about how you feel. Your feelings matter and she will hopefully respect them.