Hi Samantha, I am a 34 year old married man, been married for the last 5 years. I have a 3 year old child. My wife is quite inactive, when it comes to sex. I feel horny most of the nights. Some nights, we have sex, other nights, i just have to bury my erection. We both work fulltime. She usually blames her lack of libido to her work. I do masturbate quite often to relive me of the built up. Recently, one of my work mates suggested me to hook up /go for an erotic massage. I am bit confused. Its killing me. I am in the prime of my sex life, without having any. Please guide me.
Dear Mr White Knuckle,
I hear this almost every day from married men — and I say the same thing: COMMUNICATION IS KEY! Talk to your wife, tell her how you feel. She says she is tired from work, are you helping her around the house? With your child? Working and having a three year old is hard work – are you doing your bit?
If all else fails, and it’s once a few months two minute sex, and you seriously think this is your life forever, then you have some thinking to do. Do NOT have an affair and wreck your life and your wife’s but the odd happy ending massage wouldn’t kill anyone. Either that or see an escort – but this is your last resort. I believe honesty and communication number 1, number 2 live with it, number 3 if that’s impossible, off you trot to a professional.
xx
